• Lan Anh Phan

Be Careful With Your Words

Updated: Sep 18, 2019

It is estimated that the mind thinks between 60 000 and 80 000 thoughts a day. A big portion of those thoughts are directed toward ourselves. That inner dialogue, or self-talk, is something all humans have in common. Whether we are dwelling on the past, assessing current situations or trying to predict the future, we all have conversations with ourselves. Unfortunately, since it is done privately, we often tend to be overly critical and judgemental. It is mostly the result of our worries and fears, and as a protective mechanism, we are harder on ourselves than we should be. The main issue is that we can find ourselves being stuck in a loop of negative self-talk. Because thoughts are tightly linked with feelings, this vicious cycle will negatively affect our emotional and mental states. So, how do we get out of it? By choosing our vocabulary wisely. The words we use to talk to or about ourselves matter because the mind will believe everything we feed it. Not only our thoughts influence our feelings but our actions too. It is difficult to reach goals when our behaviours constantly reflect our fears.

This is why I say: be careful with your words. But in addition to being careful, I would even encourage you to choose empowerment over self-deprecation. Why not take control and embark in a positive loop? Positive self-talk is powerful as it can enhance your performance and general well-being. If you want to make a change, start with becoming aware of your patterns. What do I sound like? Then, it will be about slowly replacing undesirable words with more productive ones. What am I trying to do? How do I want to feel? Align your language with your intentions. Of course, deconstructing bad habits does not happen overnight, you have to practice positive self-talk daily!

Here is something I tell myself every morning: "I am great and I am meant to achieve greatness."

How do you want to start your days?

- LP.